Tube to Table

S2, Ep. 20: Preparing for Tube Weaning

If you’re thinking about tube weaning, this probably isn’t a new idea. It’s a question that’s been sitting with you for a while: Is my child ready? And underneath that, how do we prepare so this can be successful? 

  

Readiness: Preparing for tube weaning starts well before any feeds are actually reduced, and a huge part of that is making sure your child (and you) are truly ready.  We look at readiness in a few big-picture ways.   

• First is medical safety: can your child tolerate weaning, and is it safe for their body right now?   

• Just as important (and often overlooked) is psychological, social, and developmental readiness. Tube weaning is a big change. For many families, the tube was life-saving or deeply stabilizing at one point, so the idea of removing that safety net can feel uncertain, or even frightening.   

• We want to think about what else is happening in your child’s world, too. Are there new siblings, new schools, big life changes? Is this a season where your family can handle a major transition? The stars don’t need to perfectly align, but these factors certainly matter.  

 

Understanding the Big Picture: It's important to understand that tube weaning is not a straight line and not a checklist, rather, it’s individualized and holistic. Many parents are surprised to learn that “do no harm” is more important than developing skills or "plumping" kids up in order to prepare for transition to oral eating.  Kids don’t need to eat before they can be weaned; in fact, most kids learn to eat by eating and by discovering their own internal motivation. In the same way, weaning isn't just about intake, it should foster the development of self-regulation, and "plumping kids up” can actually undermine that process.  Growth and development are personal, and externally driving intake often makes the process harder, not easier.   

 

Minimize the Negative: When food has felt uncomfortable, unsafe, or pressured for a long time, our first job is often to stabilize things and protect your child’s relationship with food and with the people feeding them. Sometimes that means pausing therapy exercises, backing off skill work, and creating space for rest, trust, and predictability. That pause can feel really uncomfortable for parents, but it’s often one of the most powerful ways to prepare a child for what comes next.  

 

Create Stability: Creating ease and predictability matters more than many people realize. Tube-fed kids have often lived through constant changes: new formulas, medical tests, feeding plans, and schedules, all on top of regular life stress. They deserve a chance to experience food and daily routines without everything constantly shifting. This doesn’t mean avoiding food altogether. We want kids to still be included at family meals and to touch, explore, and play with food on their terms.  

 

Foster Autonomy: Eating requires agency, and protecting your child’s ability to say “no” is not a setback. It’s a skill. Your job is to decide what food is offered and when, whereas, your child’s job is to decide if they eat and how much. A “no” is information, not failure, and learning that their body cues are respected builds trust that pays off later.  

 

Prepare Yourself: Finally, preparation isn’t just about your child! It’s about the grown-ups too. Tube weaning changes routines, disrupts what feels familiar, and can bring up a lot of fear and pressure to “do it right.” Thinking ahead about emotional support, logistics, and flexibility is incredibly helpful.   

 

Get curious: One of the most important jobs you have is getting curious, not just about food, but about your child. What helps them feel safe? What overwhelms them? How do they communicate comfort or stress? Many parents of tube-fed kids were never given the space to really learn who their child is outside of medical needs.   

  

When safety, trust, and autonomy come first, the process has room to unfold in the way your child actually needs. Thoughtful preparation isn’t slowing things down. Instead, it’s how we protect safety, trust, and the long-term success of the weaning journey. 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com 

S2, Ep. 19: Navigating the Holidays

Navigating the holidays while tube-weaning can feel like a lot. Busy schedules, big gatherings, and traditions with friends or family can all add extra pressure, even when you don't factor in a feeding tube!  When it begins to feel like too much, it helps to zoom out and remember the real goal of the season: connection. Your child can join in family rituals and be part of the fun even if their feeding journey looks different. When we focus less on how much they ate and more on shared experiences, mealtimes get lighter for everyone. 

 

Two common holiday traps are pressure (“just try a bite”) and restriction (“not that food again!”). Even well-intended comments can make kids shut down or feel guarded around food. Instead, let the holiday table be a place to explore: seeing, smelling, touching, holding a cup, or sticking with comfort foods. By letting kids engage at their own pace, they are learning what is meaningful to them, rather than simply learning to be cautious and on-guard.  

 

Family gatherings may bring questions or unhelpful comments about eating or progress. A simple boundary or ready-to-go phrase can protect your child and keep things calm. Remember that most people mean well; they just need guidance. Your own energy matters too! When you eat what you enjoy, take breaks, and forget about trying to be perfect,  your child feels safer and more regulated. 

 

And remember: holiday eating is different for every kid. New environments and lots of stimulation naturally change appetite and participation. Your child might eat more, less, or barely engage and all of that is okay. What matters most is that they feel included and capable. Offer familiar foods, adjust routines if they’re overwhelmed, and give them ways to join the table that don’t involve eating. That might look like passing a spoon, chatting with family at the table, or eating separately and joining in once things quiet down. A mix of connection, boundaries, and flexibility creates a holiday season that supports both your child’s feeding journey and their overall well-being. You've got this! Happy Holidays! 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com 

S2, Ep. 18: Choosing a Program

Heidi and Jennifer are back today to help you feel empowered to choose the right tube weaning program for your child, your family, and yourself. Choosing a tube-weaning program is a major decision for families, especially when the information available can feel scattered or confusing. At the heart of this choice is your child’s safety, both physical and emotional. A solid program should prioritize medical oversight, work collaboratively with your child’s healthcare team, and have clear safety parameters in place for monitoring hydration, growth, and overall wellbeing. Just as important is your experience as the parent! Feeding is deeply tied to how we parent and connect with our kids, and when it becomes stressful or uncertain, that impact matters. You should be an active participant in the process, supported by professionals who listen to your insights, respect your instincts, and protect the relationship you have with your child. 

 

It’s also essential to consider the environment where the learning will take place. Many children do best in spaces that feel familiar and low-stress, which is why home-based approaches can be so powerful. They allow clinicians to see the real factors influencing feeding and help kids practice skills where they will ultimately use them. Inpatient or clinical programs can offer benefits too, like on-site medical support and multidisciplinary teams, but it’s important to understand what mealtimes will look like and how they plan to help your child generalize those gains back home. Virtual programs are convenient, but even if the communication is virtual, tube weaning is still a very real part of your child's health journey.  Virtual programs should prioritize safety, adapt to your child’s unique needs, offer timely communication, and avoid a one-size-fits-all model. Whatever the setting, the program should be flexible, child-led, and ready to pivot when challenges or “what if” moments arise. 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com  

S2, Ep. 17: How to Feed Kids Responsively

Heidi and Jennifer are back! This week, they are sharing some tips and important pillars for feeding kids responsively. When children are learning to eat after having been tube dependent, it’s easy to focus on hunger only, but true progress comes from safety, comfort, and connection first. Eating isn’t just about what’s on the plate! It’s shaped by the environment, communication and language around eating and feeding, and how your child feels. Before thinking about what foods to offer, we encourage you to start by noticing who your child is outside of mealtimes. How do they handle new situations? Noise? Mess? These clues help you shape a mealtime experience that feels predictable and safe, which is where learning to eat begins. 

 

Early on, comfort and enjoyment matter more than how much your child eats. Food is new and can feel hard, so try to focus on helping your child feel secure and curious before volumes and varieties. That might mean sitting together on the floor, offering familiar snack foods, or keeping mealtimes playful and low-pressure. Remember the Division of Responsibility. You decide what, when, and where to offer food, and your child decides if and how much to eat. It’s about providing structure while allowing freedom, so your child can explore food at their own pace. 

 

Progress in tube weaning certainly isn’t linear. It’s a process of discovery. Some days will go smoothly and others won’t, and that’s okay. Reflect on what you notice, stay flexible, and keep comfort at the center of the oral eating experiences. When you focus on safety, connection, and responsiveness instead of consumption, you create the foundation your child needs to build trust with food and eventually eat with confidence and joy. 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com 

S2, Ep. 16: Tools, Cups & Utensils

Parents often ask us: What tools do I need to help my child eat? From vibrating toys to chewy tubes, special spoons to miracle cups, the pressure to “pick the right thing” during tube weaning can be overwhelming. But the truth is, responsive tube weaning isn’t about finding the perfect tool, it’s about understanding and supporting your unique child. 

In this episode of Tube to Table, we unpack the role of tools, cups, and utensils in the weaning process. We’ll talk about: 

• Why tools are often recommended in feeding therapy and why we rarely use them 

• The myth of “sensory tolerance” and what’s actually happening when kids seem sensitive 

• Why oral motor tools don’t mimic how food behaves, and how that impacts learning 

• What it means to honor a child’s identity to support true felt safety 

• How to approach cups and utensils in a way that builds autonomy and agency 

We’ll also share when tools can be useful and how to know if your child is inviting them in, rather than just tolerating them. 

This conversation is a reminder that your child is the best guide. Most of the time, the tools you need are already at home and the real work is in creating a safe, responsive environment where your child can explore, lead, and learn to eat on their own terms. 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com  

S2, Ep. 15: Growth in Tube Weaning

In this episode, Jeni and Heidi unpack a common concern in the tube weaning journey: growth. Fears about weight loss and strategies to facilitate weight gain all impact your child's ability to wean. While growth is important, Heidi and Jeni are here today to explore why it's essential to look at it in the context of the whole child, not just the number on the scale. 

 

Jeni and Heidi talk about how focusing only on weight can lead to confusion and even stall the weaning process. Attempts to “plump kids up” before a wean often set them up for sharper drops later. Growth charts, while useful at times, weren't based on kids with tubes or complex medical histories, and comparing your child to a chart made for someone else doesn't tell the full story. Instead, we encourage families and providers to track trends over time, compare children to themselves, and zoom out to see the bigger picture. 

 

Weight loss during weaning can feel scary, but it's often a necessary and expected part of the process. When carefully monitored, it’s a sign that the child’s body is learning hunger cues and beginning to build a more natural, responsive relationship with food. Trusting the process and staying responsive rather than reacting out of fear helps children build lasting skills and confidence as oral eaters. Ultimately, growth matters, but it's just one piece of the puzzle. When we prioritize quality over quantity, work closely with our team, and keep weight in perspective; children are better able to thrive both on the scale and at the table. 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com  

S2, Ep. 14: Hydration During Tube Weaning

In this episode, Jeni and Heidi dive into a topic that doesn’t always get the spotlight it deserves during the tube weaning process: hydration. Hydration is a crucial and separate process with its own cues, rhythms, and strategies. Understanding hydration and its importance separate from nutrition and supplementation can often lead to a safer and smoother wean. 

 

We talk about why hydration deserves focused attention, especially in the early stages of weaning when safety is the top priority. How do you know your child is hydrated enough if they’re no longer getting fluids through a tube? We unpack the signs beyond just milliliters—wet diapers, energy levels, tear production, skin quality—and why it’s so important to ask your medical team for individualized hydration parameters. You'll also hear why keeping a child well hydrated often helps the feeding process, rather than hurt it. Hydration supports energy, digestion, and the body's ability to regulate. 

 

Jeni and Heidi also explore when to start working on oral hydration, and why this usually comes a little later in the weaning journey. They’ll also talk about how to build safe, joyful routines around drinking, from modeling (hint: kids love drinking what you’re drinking!) to loosening our adult ideas of “the right drink.”  

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com  

S2, Ep. 13: What Weaning Really IS

When we hear the term "tube weaning," it’s easy to assume it simply means switching from tube feeds to oral eating. But in this episode, Jeni and Heidi unpack why weaning is not just a one-time event or a quick fix—it’s a rich, layered process that unfolds over time. Tube weaning isn’t just about getting food into the mouth instead of the tube. It’s a developmental journey that involves emotional, sensory, and motor learning for the child—and often, a full family transformation. It’s not something that happens to the child, but something the child does. That shift in perspective is crucial. 

 

Jeni and Heidi explore how so much of the work in weaning is “under the surface.” It’s not just skill-building or hitting calorie targets. It’s about helping children learn to recognize new sensations like hunger, navigate unfamiliar emotions, and develop trust in their own bodies. Many of these kids have spent their early years enduring feeding, not initiating it. Becoming someone who chooses to eat is new—and that takes time, space, and support. 

 

We also talk about what this means for families. Tube weaning often requires shifts in routines, expectations, and even how caregivers relate to their child around food. There can be fear and uncertainty when stepping away from the structure and safety of the tube. But with the right environment—one that provides safety, autonomy, and patience—children can slowly build the self-regulation they need to meet their own feeding needs. Weaning isn’t about perfection. It can sometimes feel slow and non-linear. It’s not a 10-day program; it’s a months-long evolution. The key is to keep showing up, staying curious, and following your child’s lead. 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com  

S2, Ep. 12: Tube Use During Weaning

Welcome back! This week, Jeni and Heidi are talking about the role of supplementation during the tube weaning process—why it matters, how we approach it, and what it can look like when done thoughtfully and safely. 

 

Feeding tubes are incredible tools that support over 250,000 children in the U.S. They help kids grow, thrive, and heal—and the decision to use one is always made with the child’s best interest at heart. But just like any helpful tool, there may come a time when it's no longer needed and might even begin to create barriers—especially around oral eating, social life, travel, or day-to-day routines. We know that deciding to transition away from the tube is a big step. It often means the medical situation has stabilized or resolved. But the road forward requires careful thought. At THRIVE, we focus on two key ideas: honoring the role the tube has played and using it strategically as we move forward. 

 

What happens when a child is ready to wean? How do we make safe and effective supplementation decisions during this transition? 

-Hydration vs. Nutrition: While hydration is vital, it doesn’t usually interfere with oral intake of food. So we keep hydration steady while adjusting nutrition. 

-Creating Room for Hunger: Before a child can eat more, they often need to feel more. We begin with what’s called “hunger induction”—a safe, stepwise reduction of tube feeds that gives the child space to connect with hunger and eating. 

-Using the Tube Strategically: We’re not pulling support away cold turkey. Instead, we use the tube like a floatie—something to keep them safe and supported while they’re learning new skills. That includes using the tube to reinforce effort ("You worked hard, and now you feel full!") or to offer relief when things get too hard ("Let’s give you a break today."). 

-Decision-Making in Real Time: Every child is different. Some might need more reduction to recognize hunger; others may need a little support to feel safe. We base our choices on energy, growth, health, and cues from the child. It’s not about finding the perfect number of ounces—it’s about tuning into your child’s needs. 

 

Progress doesn’t mean perfection. Many kids start with small bites or narrow food ranges. The tube helps bridge the gap while they build skills, confidence, and variety. Our goal is not long-term dependence but rather using the tube as a tool while independence grows. There’s no single “right” way to do this.  

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com  

S2, Ep. 11: The Power of the Pause

In this episode, Jeni and Heidi dive into the often-overlooked but incredibly powerful concept of pausing both before and along the tube weaning journey. After months—or even years—of pushing through medical challenges, therapies, and constant decisions, many families reach a point where forward movement feels exhausting.  

 

Stepping back doesn’t mean giving up; it can actually create the space where the most meaningful progress happens. Pausing allows for emotional and physical repair—for both your child and yourself—and gives everyone a chance to find stability before pushing forward again. Jeni and Heidi explore how to recognize signs of tension or burnout (like dreading mealtimes), and why co-regulation—tuning into both your nervous system and your child’s—is such a vital part of this process. You’ll hear strategies for creating calm, pressure-free mealtimes, honoring your child’s need for space, and learning to trust the slow, sometimes messy path of tube weaning. We also reflect on the emotional work parents do—advocating, observing, supporting—and how important it is to give yourself credit and care along the way. This episode is a gentle invitation to trust that progress isn’t always about doing more, but about allowing space for healing, growth, and connection. 

 

** Please remember this podcast is NOT meant to replace the support and guidance of your child's medical team.  Consult with your doctor before starting the weaning process.** 

 

Don’t forget to follow us on social media for more helpful information @Thrivewithspectrum on Instagram and Thrive by Spectrum Pediatrics on Facebook. You can also find out more information about the programs we offer at www.thrivewithspectrum.com